What is the sex etiquette when it comes to dating?
Can someone please explain to me what the sex etiquette is when it comes to dating? I keep hearing the same stories over and over from girls who are in the dating game, once they sleep with the guy its game over. The more I sit down and have this conversation with my girlfriends, the more I realise this situation seems to be happening an awful lot. Is the deliberation here that guys think girls will want a serious relationship from here on in? Because let me tell you guys not all girls want that so no need to freak out every time.
I would like to know if there is a process involved and how soon is too soon? Is it a case by case situation or is there some sort of "bro code" that we’re not privy to? If you sleep with a guy within the first 2 dates…next, if you wait too long to sleep with a guy…next! It’s catch 22 people!
Recently a friend of mine had been on quite a few dates with this particular guy and it seemed to be going along nicely. After 5 or so dates she slept with him. That same night she stayed over and it just so happened to be his birthday the next day, he had hired out a private room at a restaurant for the night to celebrate with his close friends and family. He didn’t invite her, which was ok given they hadn’t been dating very long although a little disappointing. Nevertheless she didn’t let it get to her. Funnily enough she was heading to the same restaurant as him for dinner with some girlfriends so naturally she expected to see him there a little later on. Well… he didn’t come out of the function room all night. As he was leaving the restaurant to kick on with his celebrations, my friend happened to be chatting to one of his friends from the party and he made his way over to them. His mate introduced him to my friend (not knowing that they already knew each other) and he turned around effortlessly and said “nice to meet you”. WTF they slept together the night before! Suffice to say she never spoke to or saw him again after that night but again, WTF!!
Why are some guys such jerks after you sleep with them? I haven’t quite figured it out yet, I am guessing it means you just haven’t met the right one. I know a number of people who have ended up married after a one night stand and then those who have ended up together after months of waiting to do it. Yes I said it. Maybe there is no such thing as sex etiquette it is simply just a matter of waiting for the right one to come along, right?
In the meantime gentlemen let me give you some advice, even if you have no intention of seeing the girl again at least send a text message the next day to make us feel a little better about ourselves!